We've been talking a lot about marriage recently, and we know you have questions. We all face challenges in our marriage. None of us has it all figured out. What have you always wanted to know, but you've been afraid to ask? What have you been trying to figure out? Where do you feel "stuck?"
- The reason for conflict
- The reactions to conflict
- The resolution to conflict
Conflict is inevitable but combat is optional.
- My way
- Your way
- Our way
- No way
- Half way
- God’s way
- Pray for God’s wisdom and strength
- Analyze the problem
- Understand the goal
- Schedule a resolution meeting
- Establish ground rules before conflict
Avoiding the 7 C's when dealing with conflict.
- Never compare
- Never condemn
- Never command
- Never challenge
- Never condescend
- Never contradict
- Never criticize
Love and Respect. The two pillars of a healthy, biblical marriage. Marriages built on physical attraction, common interests or an emotional connection will eventually crumble. Ultimately, every wife needs to feel loved and every husband needs to feel respected. At times, this can be difficult. We must trust Jesus to sustain and strengthen us. We must also look for practical ways to show love and respect emotionally, physically, financially, and spiritually.
Ultimately, you practice love or respect because beyond your spouse you see Jesus Christ and you envision a moment when you will be standing before Him at the final judgment, realizing that your marriage was really a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and your reverence for your Lord. – Emerson Eggerichs
Scripture Reference: Ephesians 5:21-33
Men and women are different. While this fact shouldn’t surprise anyone, we often feel blind-sided by the tensions and frustrations that these differences produce in our marriage. Has God truly designed marriage to be a constant struggle between two different and deficient people? Of course not!
Paul writes that marriage is a “mystery” because two people unite to become one better person in Christ. For this mystery to be realized, we must understand the roles and responsibilities God has established for this new and better person. Filling these roles helps us fulfill the God-given purpose of marriage - to know and show the love of Jesus Christ. As husband and wife, we truly can be better together!
“Two are better than one…” – Ecclesiastes 4:9
Scripture Reference: Ephesians 5:21-30
Marriage is hard. You meet that special person who will bring you your “happily ever after,” but then your fairy tale takes a sour turn into reality. Before you know it, you're no longer husband and wife, but roommates – trying to keep things civil and not get in each other’s way. You busy yourselves with work, social events, and church to distract you from the uncomfortable coldness at home. You're miserable, but sticking it out “for the kids.” This isn't the marriage you expected; it certainly isn't the marriage you always wanted.
What is God’s plan and purpose for marriage? To give us a deeper understanding of our union with Him. This is the marriage we've always wanted – the marriage we've been made for. When our earthly marriage becomes a true picture of our heavenly one, things begin to change. We no longer focus on our “happily ever after”; we look forward to our “happily FOREVER after.”
Scripture Reference: Ephesians 5:31-33