Posts in Two One
Physically One

Sex is a wonderful gift given by God to a husband and wife in marriage. This gift was designed to compete - or consummate - the mystery of two people becoming one flesh. Like so many others, this gift from God has been perverted and twisted into something it was never intended to be. From the time we are young, we have exposures and experiences that pervert our sexuality, and we bring these perversions into the marriage bed. What should be defined by humility and sacrifice has been replaced by pride and selfishness. Sexual sin is perhaps the most destructive force in any marriage, tearing people apart and dividing what God has joined together. But there is hope. Even our sexuality is subject to the Holy Spirit. He can tear down the sinful construct of our sexual past and rebuild intimacy into our marriage.

Scripture References:  1 Corinthians 6:18-7:5, Hebrews 13:4, Luke 6:35, Acts 20:35, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, 7, Job 31:1, Matthew 5:27-30, 1 Corinthians 10:31

Purposefully One

“Why did you get married?” The question of purpose is a vital one, yet when it comes to marriage, far too many people don’t have the right answer. Marriage is not the means to my own end of personal happiness. Marriage was designed by God to clearly display the covenant love of Jesus Christ for His Church. My own ideas of romance and personal fulfillment are secondary. A healthy marriage can only be found through a healthy relationship with Christ. When we are right with Him, we are free to love like He loves - unconditionally, unwaveringly and unrelentingly. We are free to forgive as we have been forgiven. We’re able to lay down our lives for our spouse instead of laying down the law. Often, the surest way to a better marriage is to stop focusing so much on marriage and to start focusing on the mission of making disciples together as husband and wife.

Scripture References:  Ephesians 5:22-23, Romans 8:11, 2 Corinthians 3:17, 2 Timothy 1:7, Luke 14:25-26, Matthew 22:30, Luke 6:27-36

One Spiritually

God created the marriage covenant to be a union between a husband and a wife that is to be physical, emotion and spiritual.  What does it mean to be "One Spiritually?"  As we understand who we are in Christ, we discover the power and the blessing of experiences in marriage.

Scripture References:  Mark 10:8, 1 Corinthians 6:14, Amos 3:3, 1 Corinthians 7:12-16, Ephesians 5:21, Colossians 3:12-13

What God Has Joined Together

Divorce is all-too-common in our world today. Nearly half of all marriages end in divorce, but these statistics don’t account for those who remain legally married, but divorced in their heart and mind long ago. For these, marriage has become a prison from which there is no escape. But there is hope. We must return to God’s heart for marriage, recapturing what it means to become “one flesh” and to love unconditionally. We must hold fast to our spouse and let go of our own idea of “happily ever after.” We must stop looking to tear apart what God has joined together because our needs aren’t being met like we want them to be met. We must start fighting for the very thing Christ died for: LOVE.

Scripture References:  Matthew 19:1-12, Ephesians 5:28-29, 31-32, Malachi 2:16, 2 Corinthians 6:14-15, 1 Corinthians 6:12, Matthew 1:18-19, Deuteronomy 22:22, 1 Corinthians 7:32-35, 38